Hey there! If you’ve just come out of a toxic relationship, you might be feeling the urge to:

1. Stand up for yourself

2. Stop being a doormat

3. Set some solid boundaries

But here’s the thing: many people think that means they have to toughen up, and that can lead them to become someone they don’t even like.

Fighting with toxic people? Not worth it. Most of the time, toxic folks are just emotionally immature. They haven’t learned the skills they need to handle life differently, and honestly, they probably won’t change. So don’t be that person who keeps trying to fix them—it’s a slow road to nowhere!

If you keep pointing out their flaws and trying to change them, you’ll just end up in a cycle of anger and drama. You can keep being “right” or you can choose to move on, heal, and grow your emotional strength. Trust me, if you want to be happy and emotionally healthy, fighting with a toxic person isn’t the way to go.

Instead, focus on growing yourself so you can find better people to surround yourself with. You can’t change someone who's hurting, but you can absolutely change how you respond to them and how much power you give them over your life.

Sure, there are moments when you need to stand up to hurtful people, but don’t confuse that with trying to change them. Pick the right people to love from the get-go! You can’t love someone enough to make them change their core personality. Just like you can’t turn a scary Alsatian into a poodle with boundaries!

What you can do is learn to love yourself confidently and build a happy life with a fresh mindset. You’re beautiful and worthy, and your energy deserves to be invested in people who treat you right. It’s all about making the choice of who you give your love to. When you truly love yourself, you’ll know what you’re willing to put up with.

Become your best self, and the world will open up for you. That’s my hope for you!

You don’t need to fight, fix, or fear toxic people anymore.
You just need the right tools to heal, grow, and become the strongest version of you.

If you’re ready to stop the cycle and start a new chapter—one filled with peace, strength, and real love—let’s talk.

💬 Book your free clarity call with me here.
🌟 It’s your time to rise, reset, and shine.

With love,
Fiona x

P.S. If you see someone stuck in a toxic situation, have the courage to stand up for what’s right. Help them break free from that cycle. It’s our duty as a community to shine a light for those who are being controlled or manipulated. Once you’ve found your own healing, you’ll be able to help others too. Together, we can stop the hurt!