"How to Stop Letting Your Ex Control Your Emotions"

After divorce, interactions with your ex can feel like walking into a battlefield. Whether they’re critical, dismissive, or manipulative, their behaviour often triggers intense emotions that leave you feeling powerless. But you don’t have to live at the mercy of their actions.

Why Your Ex Triggers You

Your ex’s behaviour is likely tapping into:

• Old Wounds: Their words may mirror criticisms or emotional invalidation you experienced during the marriage—or even earlier in life.

• Unresolved Anger or Guilt: Lingering resentment or regret can amplify your reactions to their actions.

• Fear of Conflict: If you avoid confrontation, you may feel stuck or unable to stand up for yourself.

How to Take Back Control

1. Understand Your Triggers: When your ex provokes you, pause and ask, “What am I really reacting to? What belief or fear is being triggered?”

2. Set Boundaries: Clearly define what you will and won’t tolerate. For example, keep conversations focused on practical matters like co-parenting or finances.

3. Practice Emotional Detachment: Learn to separate their actions from your sense of self-worth. Visualise a shield protecting you from their negativity.

4. Reframe Your Perspective: Instead of seeing their behaviour as a personal attack, recognise it as a reflection of their own unresolved issues.

💡 Your Next Step: Learn how to manage your emotions and interactions with your ex effectively. Book a free call with our team or attend our 3-Day Reset Your Life and Shine After Divorce event: https://bit.ly/ryl-fs.