Friends of mine just announced their separation after 11 years together. I was impressed how they let their family, friends and clients know. First the woman announced it and then three days later, her ex followed up with his post.

Even though they looked like the dream couple on the outside, they found themselves at this place. I am proud of both of them and the way they are being respectful, as they navigate their path forward. Both of them have done a lot of personal development work on themselves and this allows them to regulate their emotions and communicate in this manner.

I thought it may be beneficial to share their messages as the way they are doing it may be different to how you did it, and you may be able to learn something from it.

I have no doubt they will have obstacles that come up but hopefully with this level of emotional maturity, they will be able to respectfully navigate them and minimise the hurt they cause to each other.

From her:

It’s with a humble and open heart that I share: XXXX and I have lovingly chosen to part ways.

This is a tender time of transition, and I’m walking it with gratitude — for the love, the lessons, the family that held me, and the journey we’ve shared.

I carry it all with me as I take this next step on my path.

Your support, love, and reflections mean more than I can say.

Thank you to those who’ve walked with me through this — I wouldn’t be who I am without you.

If you happen to be one of our clients, please know this doesn’t change a thing in our commitment to you.

And if any creative opportunities, collaborations, or soul-guided paths call to you that might resonate — my heart is open.

Here’s to healing, growth, and coming home to ourselves. 🙏🤍✨

From Him:

Friends & Family...

The decision wasn’t easy,

but XXXXXXXX and I have decided to go our separate ways.

We couldn’t find a shared vision of the future, where both of us would be happy staying together.

We shared 11 adventurous years together,

and while our relationship had many beautiful moments...

...we’ve both come to realize there are things missing that we need, in order to continue growing -- both individually and as a couple.

Over the next couple of months, we’ll be working through our living situations & planning our paths forward.

I'm grateful for the time we've shared,

and the growth I've experienced along the way.

Thanks in advance for your love and support in this transition. ❤

I call this conscious uncoupling.

They had 11 amazing years together but now know, they have different wants and needs to each other…

They’ve talked about it and decided it’s best they go their separate ways.

They are choosing to be respectful and honour what they had.

Do you think if you could have had conversations like they’ve had, your separation/divorce would have been different/less painful?

Do you think the way they are doing it will minimise the trauma of divorce?

What can you take from this?

Would you have liked to be able to process your separation like they are?

I’m interested to hear your feedback and comments so we can learn together.

My husbeen and I navigated a similar journey. It got a bit wonky for a bit but then we got it sorted so we can have Christmas as a family, can do family events together and happily share our grandchild.

Fiona 🙏🏼❤️

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