Why Loving Yourself Isn’t That Easy — And Why It’s Not Your Fault

If loving yourself were as simple as everyone makes it sound, every woman would be confident, peaceful, fulfilled, and walking tall.

But most women don’t actually know how to love themselves.
Not because they’re weak.
Not because they’re broken.
But because somewhere along the way… they forgot who they were.

Every woman begins life as a bright, joyful little girl — curious, playful, trusting, excited by the world, full of dreams and possibilities. She knew what she wanted. She knew who she was. She believed her heart.

And then life began to chip away at her.

Not all at once.
But slowly.
Quietly.
Bit by bit.

A comment here.
A criticism there.
A betrayal.
A disappointment.
An expectation she could never meet.
A moment where she learned it wasn’t safe to be herself anymore.

Eventually, she stopped fighting for her own voice and started accepting the version of herself she was told to be.

And by the time she becomes a woman… she looks in the mirror and realises:

“I don’t even know who I am anymore.”

The dreams she once had don’t match her current reality.
Her confidence has faded.
Her spirit feels dimmed.
And her reflection barely resembles the woman she thought she’d grow up to be.

Loving yourself is not easy when the identity you carry is built on years of pain, criticism, abandonment, or unmet needs.
It’s not easy when your self-belief has eroded piece by piece.
It’s not easy when your nervous system has learned to expect disappointment and protect you from risk.

Some women collapse under the weight of it.
Some harden just to survive.

But here’s the truth you’ve never been told:

Finding yourself does not “just happen.”
It’s not wishful thinking.
It’s not praying for change without taking action.
It’s not forcing affirmations you don’t believe.

Reclaiming yourself is a conscious decision — a choice to rise into a higher level of awareness, emotional intelligence, and self-leadership than you currently have.
It requires tools, guidance, and a new way of seeing yourself.

But it is possible.

And once you grow your mind, expand your self-awareness, and rebuild your identity from truth — not trauma — the world opens up again.

You become free of the shackles of your past.
You stand tall in your worth.
You love yourself with depth and certainty.
You move forward not because someone saved you, but because you saved yourself.

And that’s when you finally fly — with your own wings.

With love,
Fiona May

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