We all know someone who has that story.

The friend who always talks about her grandchildren.
The one who proudly shows off her collections and passions.
The one who still lights up when she talks about someone she once met.

And then there’s another kind of story-teller.

The woman who can only talk about her pain.
Her loss.
Her betrayal.
Her divorce.

After separation or divorce, it’s incredibly easy to become that woman — not because you’re dramatic or weak, but because pain is powerful, familiar, and strangely comforting. Painful stories are often the easiest ones to tell because they explain why life feels the way it does.

But here’s the truth most women never hear:

The story you repeat becomes the identity you live.

If you continually tell yourself — and others — that you are sad, angry, lonely, or broken because of what happened, your nervous system keeps reliving it. Your mind keeps reinforcing it. And your future quietly shrinks to fit it.

You don’t move forward because a part of you is still living back there.

This is how women get stuck.

Not because they don’t want to heal — but because their story keeps pulling them back into the past like a vacuum. Over time, pain becomes the headline of their life instead of a chapter they’ve already survived.

And here’s the brave question I want you to gently ask yourself:

Is this the woman you want to be known as?
Is this the story you want defining the next 10, 20, 30 years of your life?

Healing doesn’t mean denying what happened.
It doesn’t mean pretending it didn’t hurt.
It means choosing not to let the worst chapter become the title of your book.

When you change the story you tell, your nervous system softens. Your identity expands. And new possibilities finally have room to enter.

You are not your divorce.
You are not your betrayal.
You are not your pain.

You are the woman who lived through it — and that means you get to decide what comes next.

And if you’re ready to rewrite your story with support, structure, and guidance, you don’t have to do it alone.

Your Next Steps

1. Attend the RESET Your Life & Shine 3-Day Event
A powerful immersion to help you break free from old stories and consciously create your next chapter.
👉 https://bit.ly/ryl-fs

2. Book a Coaching Call With Our Team
If you’re ready for personalised support to heal, rebuild, and move forward.
👉 https://link.womenontransition.com/freecall

With love,
Fiona May