Healing after divorce doesn't happen in support groups, on social media, or even in a therapists office. It happens in your brain... specifically, in your subconscious mind.

You are actually 100% in control of the way you feel and heal.

Does that sound new and maybe a little too optimistic? I understand. As Australia's #1 Divorce Recovery Coach, I've helped countless women rediscover their shine after the darkness of divorce.

As a non “woo woo” coach, I study the science of the mind and I don't buy into the myths peddled about the best way to heal from a divorce. I never believe anything unless it's science-based and I have evidence it's the best known method and it gives us the most effective results. You may not consider yourself an expert in this field, but I can guess that you appreciate facts.

Since we're talking about recovering from a relationship loss or successfully navigating a divorce, I want to share 3 scientific truths that helped me, and the women in my Shine Program, understand how to heal after divorce so we could get unstuck and move forward again quickly and minimise the negative impact.

👉The Science of Emotional Healing: 3 Scientific Truths about the human brain

1️⃣The brain is capable of developing new thoughts and patterns by recognising the connections and pathways between nerve cells. This is called neuroplasticity. But, the brain continues to use the same old connections and pathways, out of habit and efficiency, until it is taught to change - either consciously or by an external threat.

2️⃣The brain is also designed to be efficient and conserve energy in any way possible. This is why it might feel hard to start exercising or resist an extra helping of food. Exercising costs the body energy, while taking in food-calories adds to the energy reserve. This is also why change is hard.

3️⃣The brain can be "trained" (just like a muscle) through repetition and conscious intent, to do new things, feel better emotions, and perform at different levels. And, using the brain to express emotions (by talking about them, writing about them, becoming aware of them, naming them, etc) significantly reduces stress. Allowing the brain to grow and develop can delay the effects of aging and increase feelings of ease and wellbeing. (Who doesn't want that?)

What does this mean for healing after heartbreak or a divorce?

If you want to experience rapid and profound changes in life, and specifically, feel better after a relationship loss or divorce, do these 3 things:

🧠Become aware of the way your brain is currently organised. In other words, become conscious of your subconscious beliefs and thoughts.

🧠Reduce stress about uncomfortable feelings (shame, grief, anger, guilt) by expressing them in a structured way in a safe environment.

🧠Change the way the brain cells connect to each other and "reroute" the thought patterns that make you feel bad or stuck. Make new thought habits through practice and repetition.

If your next question is HOW????...the Shine Program is the answer.

The Shine Program is my science-backed 12-week life transforming program for women who are ready to heal the brain burnout that happened over their lifetime and has led to them having a relationship loss or divorce. In the Shine Program:

We'll dive into the subconscious thoughts and programming (privately and safely) that create divorce burnout and keep us stuck. This is where we begin to see the beliefs and habits that are getting in the way so we can consciously change them.

Then, we'll start "reprogramming" your brain's connections and teaching it different thoughts, beliefs, and patterns. You'll harness the power of your brain's neuroplasticity to create a new future reality.

Next, we'll reinforce those new (and better) thought habits through practice and repetition, so you can stop coping in the moment and truly become the healed woman who takes action to leave her pain, loss and negativity behind and fall in love with her new life.

Sound good?

Send me a private message or email [email protected] if you think the Shine Program is your next step on the healing journey. I'll ask a few questions to see if it's a good fit for you and we'll take it from there. The best time to start is... now. Can't wait to hear from you.