Divorce has a way of bringing old regrets to the surface.

Many women tell me the same thing:
“I can forgive him… but I can’t forgive myself.”

You replay decisions.
You question what you tolerated.
You wonder what you missed.
And somewhere along the way, guilt and self-blame quietly take hold.

But here’s the truth I want you to really take in:

You cannot move forward freely while you are still punishing yourself for the past.

Self-forgiveness isn’t about pretending mistakes didn’t matter. It’s about releasing the emotional weight they carry so you can heal and grow.

You Are Human — Not Flawed

Mistakes are not proof that you are broken. They are proof that you were human, doing the best you could with the awareness, tools, and emotional capacity you had at the time.

Divorce is complex. Emotions are high. Decisions are rarely perfect.

Your mistakes are experiences — not identities.

Practice Self-Compassion

After divorce, many women become their own harshest critics. But self-compassion is not weakness — it’s emotional maturity.

Speak to yourself the way you would speak to a woman you love.
With understanding.
With kindness.
With perspective.

Self-forgiveness begins when self-punishment ends.

Extract the Lesson — Then Release the Pain

Every painful experience carries wisdom.

Ask yourself:
What did this teach me about my needs?
My boundaries?
My worth?
My patterns?

When the lesson is integrated, the pain no longer needs to stay.

Let Go of Guilt and Regret

Guilt keeps you emotionally tethered to the past.
Regret convinces you that you should still be paying a price.

But the truth is:
You’ve already learned.
You’ve already grown.
You don’t need to keep suffering to prove it mattered.

Stop Comparing Your Healing

There is no timeline for recovery.
No gold star for “being over it.”
No rulebook for how quickly you should heal.

Your journey is yours.
And it is unfolding exactly as it needs to.

Give Yourself Permission to Move Forward

Forgiveness doesn’t erase the past — it frees your future.

You are allowed to heal.
You are allowed to be happy again.
You are allowed to create a new chapter without dragging old guilt into it.

You Don’t Have to Do This Alone

Sometimes self-forgiveness needs guidance, support, and structure.

And that’s not failure — that’s wisdom.

Your Next Steps

If you’re ready to release guilt, rebuild self-trust, and move forward with peace:

1. Attend the RESET Your Life & Shine 3-Day Event
A powerful immersion focused on healing, forgiveness, and emotional reset.
👉 https://bit.ly/ryl-fs

2. Book a Coaching Call With Our Team
For personalised support through your healing journey.
👉 https://link.womenontransition.com/freecall

With love,
Fiona May