Kudos to those parents who refuse to unfairly badmouth their ex-partners to their children, after the relationship ends.

I feel that this choice is essential if you care about your children’s emotional well-being.

They are entitled to make their own decision about their parent, based on their own experience with them, and they don’t need to be influenced by your personal bias.

It's one thing to share facts that they truly must know for their own protection- it's quite another to use the kid(s) as a dumping ground or as ammunition.

I see Mums badmouthed their kids Father all the time, and it can go on for decades after (and before) they divorced, and it only caused more suffering and confusion.

The fact is that your Ex is half of your kids, and turning them against him only adds to them questioning their own identity and beliefs.

It is difficult enough to deal with your parents divorce without having to divorce a part of yourselves as well.
What we've seen work time and time again is when you do core healing work and you learn to process the pain of your divorce, understand why the relationship broke down and the roles you both played. Being able to process your hurt brings you to a place of acceptance, forgiveness and peace.

Those who can learn to take responsibility for their contribution to the breakdown and have an understanding of their ex and the role they played, learn to forgive and move on with dignity and Grace.

This is the very best anyone can do for their kids. You honour your children and minimise their turmoil when you respect their right to love both parents, and this makes your home, family and this world a much better place…

Please reach out to me if you want to heal and help your kids transition through your divorce with the least amount of suffering.

Fiona May

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